Eve Adams

How do you be sexy after spending a large amount of time with one person. This is a good question as spending large amounts of time with a single lover it is very hard to keep the flame alight. I mean after six months I am struggling to keep things sexy in the bedroom. How can we keep the sexiness up when it's the same person we have been waking up to for twenty years?

Being a sexy husband after 20 years may be just a case of listening to what your partner is actually talking about. It may be taking your partner out and spending some time together away from kids, friends and life's worries. Or it may be buying your wife some sexy lingerie, some fun adult toys and booking a few nights at some romantic destination to show her you still want to get down and dirty with her. It all depends on what you (after 20 years of marriage) know would be sexy to your wife. If you don't know what your wife would consider a sexy gesture after twenty years of togetherness perhaps divorce may be the sexy gesture she is after!

If you want to surprise your partner why not do a little manscaping, shave or wax those hairy bits. She will either love it or hate it but at least you are attempting to bring the sexiness back. Look into buying some sexy slingshot briefs to surprise her in. When going out somewhere tie a ribbon around your penis and have the other end sticking slightly over the top of your pants. While out at your destination (restaurant, party, movies) whisper to your wife that she has control over you for the night and slip her hand on the end of the ribbon. She'll either laugh hysterically or love the idea of having control of your penis at a public event. Either way you are trying to bring the sexiness back and that's what is really sexy after twenty years.